Reflections: Staying Positive in Negative Times
Author: Rev. Dr. R. Franklin Gillis
The stay-at-home orders placed on us in the last two and a half months because of the pandemic have impacted our lives in many ways. One of the things we miss is being with family, friends and neighbors. I think the thing I miss the most though, is gathering with our church family for worship and fellowship. Worship and fellowship feed our spirits. Human contact is an essential part of life and to be denied it often has harmful consequences. I am finding this whole shelter in place situation challenging. I know I’m not alone when I say I miss doing so many things that were a part of my daily schedule.
We are reminded daily of the negative effects the quarantine and in many cases isolation, are causing. Restrictions in our normal activities and lack of social contact are causing harm to our psyches. Sometimes our patience is tried beyond limits. Sadness and depression are common, and often produce anxiety. Anxiety can lead to unexpected and even mind-boggling behavior. In some situations, people have become angry and resorted to violence.
There’s never been a time in my life when there has been a greater need to combat negativity with positivity. So what can we do to turn negative feelings around? Here are some things I’ve come up with:
- Begin each day, not reacting to the negative aspects of what is going in the world, but thinking about all the good things that are a part of your life.
- Make a list of all the things you are grateful for, then count your blessings. Take note of how much is still right in the world and be thankful. Start a gratitude journal, and write in it every day.
- Go for a walk, consider the wonders of nature all around you. Listen to the birds singing, watch the wind in the trees.
- Listen to upbeat, happy music.
- Watch the sunrise, sunset or starry night.
- Reach out and “touch” others through phone calls and emails. Send “thinking of you” and thank you cards and notes.
- Rely on your spiritual disciplines of prayer and meditation. Read encouraging passages of scripture. No matter what we may face, we can find comfort from our faith.
What would you add to this list? Share your thoughts with me and I will compile and share in a future Reflection.
We must remember that our current condition will pass. It may take more time than we ever anticipated, but we can find ways to accent the positive and overcome the negative. When we do, we will find strength to face the dawning of a new norm.
About Rev. Dr. R. Franklin Gillis:
The Rev. Dr. R. Franklin Gillis has been a resident of the Richmond area for 30 years. He served on the Richmond District as senior pastor of Bon Air UMC, and Richmond District Superintendent prior to his retirement. Writing a devotional, “Reflections for the Journey,” is a part of his weekly disciplines.
